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Who will keep my secret?
My wife is not that great with surprise birthday parties. She gets so excited for the person that she’s been known to give away the secret on a couple of occasions. Truth is, people love to share things that are important to them because we all love intimacy. Feeling trust, safety, and closeness in relationships is great, but when it comes to sharing your relationship secrets with friends, it can be disastrous.
For example, your bf/gf shares a secret with you, then you share the secret with your close friends, who promise to keep it a secret, but then they share the secret with the disclaimer: “you can’t tell anyone,” but then even they have to share the secret and it keeps on going. Have you been there before? It’s not a secret anymore…SURPRISE!!
Truth is, of your 5 close friends at this age, most likely only one will keep it a secret, if that. When it comes to secrets and being able to be totally honest, I always suggest students have at least two key people in their life: a peer they can trust, and an adult they can trust. That adult could be your parent, but sometimes not. Study these folks to see if they will tell the truth even when it hurts, if they keep from telling other people’s business, if they have a good conscience to decide right from wrong, and/or they live out the advice they give to others. Only tell your secrets to very select people, because not everyone who claims to be a good friend is trustworthy to keep your secrets.
Posted by: JasonH on 10/14 at 11:16am 0 Comments
