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Sex Has Consequences
When I mention it in classes, most students agree that when a couple has sex, it changes the relationship. We discuss the chemicals released in the brain and how they impact the way the couple relates with one another. Now lets take it a step further: the couple finds out unexpectedly they are going to be parents. That brings change to a whole new level!
If you have seen the shows 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom on MTV, relationships that were already complicated by sex are now put in a pressure-cooker when it comes to being parents together. They have a very challenging time with expectations of how the relationship should change/remain the same. The question of keeping the baby or giving up the child for adoption is a huge decision to make. There are now huge financial issues . Communication is difficult to maintain, and the ability to solve conflict becomes extremely important, since each person is making their decisions with the baby in mind. Each teen’s family is now involved, further complicating things (how many of you always see eye-to-eye with your parents?). The question of whether or not their relationship will even make it compiles the stress even further. Plus, you still have to be a full-time student and make it through to graduation day!!
The hopes and dreams for each teen parent’s life is now even more difficult to achieve than before and is even altered by becoming a parent. As the billboard in town this month says, sex truly has consequences. It is one thing to see it on an edited and drama-filled reality television show, but it is another to experience it. This is why I always encourage my students to postpone sex until you are in a stable, committed marriage relationship.
In a committed marriage relationship, your relationship has already passed the tests of dating, parents, and high school. You are together because you want to be, not simply because a baby is on the way, and when it gets tough, no one is walking away. Sex with someone who is not committed to you for life brings about instability that no expectant parent, nor any baby should have to go through.
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Posted by: JasonH on 5/5 at 9:06am 0 Comments
