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Is conflict ever good for your dating relationship?
Yes, but you must understand that there is a difference in conflict and a drag out fight with physical altercations involved. Relationships allow us the opportunity to learn about ourselves and the other person. We are growing daily and as we grow and mature we learn what we like for ourselves and what we don’t like. This also gives us the chance to explore how to deal with these challenges in our relationships as they present themselves. For example, lets say a boyfriend gets mad at his girlfriend because she did not return his calls. He called her three times and she never misses his calls. He has been through this before and he does not like being ignored. She finally calls him back and she is excited, she has not talked to him all day and is ready to hear his voice. She could not get to her phoneearlier because she was interviewing for a summer job at the mall. The interview was called at the last minute so she did not have time to call him and tell him she was excited that she might get the job she wants for the summer. When he talks to her he is short and the only question he wants to know is why was she ignoring him? In actuality she was not ignoring him, she put her phone on silent while she was in the interview so that she could give the interviewer her attention and have a good interview without any interruptions. This is a conflict for them because emotionally he feesl like she has let him down. She always answers his calls and because of his last girlfriend and her behavior he has trust issues. They can both learn from this experience if they are willing to talk things out. Try to avoid making assumptions. If this conflict would have never occurred he would not have known he had trust issues and needs to work on that to better himself. She would have been better prepared to talk to him about where she was and why she did not answer when he called. Some conflicts can help a relationship because its helps us to understand the type of person we are dating. As long as violence is not a part of relationship, conflict can be used as a learning experience. Healthy relationships will still have conflict, it is how you deal with the conflict that is the key.
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 8/5 at 12:58pm 0 Comments
