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Who pays for the date?

Traditionally, the guy is the one who pays for the date because he is the one expected to do the asking. However, I have talked with plenty of ladies who have gone out with a guy to dinner and he is not prepared to pay. It is an awkward situation that none of us would like to be in. There are also plenty of guys who are asked out by the lady and he expects them each to pay for their own while she expects him to pay. Yet again an awkward situation since she did the asking. So what should we do about this paying issue???

My rule of thumb is to go ahead and prepare to pay for both, whether you are the guy or the lady. Then if he turns out to be cheap and not want to pay for you (or possibly himself) you will be covered and at least dodge a bad situation becoming worse. A second date most likely will not be in order. Many ladies I have spoken with prefer to pay their own way on the first couple of dates to avoid a compromising situation. While a lady never owes anything to a guy just because he spent money on her, it dissuades a guy from trying to take advantage of her.

If you don’t like my idea, then the best thing is to bite the bullet and discuss who will pay before you go out. It does not mean either of you are cheap and if you think they will decide not to go out if you ask about who will pay, they are not worth your time. It is about good communication. What do you think?

Posted by: JasonH on 9/11 at 3:40pm 2 Comments

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