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What a good relationship IS
Dating relationships can be a lot of fun, but also a lot of drama. Most people I talk to really want to avoid all the drama: fights in public, late night phone calls hashing out an argument though you can’t seem to remember how it began, jealousy and betrayal. The list of what is bad about a relationship can go on forever. Most of us know what a good relationship is NOT, but how do we know what a good relationship IS?
The foundation for a good dating relationship starts with patience. The relationship should develop naturally in its own time. The partners do not need to compare themselves to everyone else and are content to move at their own pace. Otherwise, the dating relationship becomes more about what others think rather than discovering one another. Second, the foundation should have trust and/or respect. The partners do not run around talking about their private business with everyone else. Each person is able to put themselves in the other person’s shoes in conflict to better understand one another. They don’t force or manipulate each other to do things they do not want to do. Third, a good relationship has great communication. Many folks have expectations of dating that they never communicate which typically leads to conflict. Yet a good dating relationship expresses expectations, discusses true feelings, and allows for each other to own their opinions, even if you don’t agree on things. Finally, a good relationship is supportive of each other’s individual and shared goals. Each wants the best for the other person and stops short of trying to change the other. They are genuinely happy for their success and push aside jealousy. They want the other’s goals to be achieved, even at the sacrifice of their time together, or the actual dating relationship. Their individuality is highly respected. Why settle for less than these characteristics?
Posted by: JasonH on 10/11 at 10:45pm 0 Comments
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