“If someone is going to make me miserable, then I’m going to make them miserable.” Isn’t that how we usually feel when someone hurts us? As humans our first reaction is to always get even.
Of course most of us know the difference between right and wrong and that the right answer when someone hurts you is not to hurt them back. I know what you’re probably thinking…. “But, it’s just not that simple.” If we took a poll and were extremely honest with our responses, we would probably all agree that we want our voices heard. Knowing that someone is listening to us gives us a sense of security and the feeling that someone actually cares for us.
This is also true when someone close to us, like our boyfriend or girlfriend hurts us. So back to the title of this blog; what do we do when someone cheats on us?
First, remember to stay calm. This doesn’t mean doing nothing. It just means not flying off the handle and doing something stupid that you will live to regret.
Second, make sure you have all the facts. I know people who have jumped to conclusions about a situation based on what someone said only to find out the information wasn’t accurate.
Third, if you truly believe you have been wronged, ask for a face to face conversation where you can share the information you have and find out if it is accurate. This will allow you to see facial expressions, hear the tone of voice your friend uses and watch their body language. This way you don’t have to guess or make assumptions.
If it becomes clear that the person did do something to break trust in your relationship then you have a decision to make.
Part of learning what it means to be in a healthy relationship is dealing with stuff like this.
So, what do you think? How would you deal with someone who cheated on you?
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There was a lot of hear say about my ex and a lot of other girls. When I confronted him about it, he denied it with a very defensive tone. I ended up breaking up with him, because I just couldn’t trust him anymore.
Nothing hurts worse than being deceived that way
Ok,you should confront him/her if its here say.but if you have the evidence to prove it,then you should split up or break up with him/her.
Cheating is not a good thing to do especially if you so called say that you are in love with that person and they find out and they are emotionally destroyed!
