We’ve all heard about someone we know being in a relationship where the guy is into drugs or things we know are wrong and the girl that’s dating him thinks she can change or fix him. Sometimes if the girl starts being a (bleep) the guy may change his behavior. But changing behavior doesn’t mean someone has really changed. Being that girl who tries to fix her rebellious boyfriend is like trying to put a band-aid on a cut that needs stitches. Or consider Old Faithful, the geyser that shoots water over thirty feet in the air at Yellowstone National Park. The amazing thing about Old Faithful is not the water that shoots into the air but it’s all the water underneath the ground that causes the water to explode. So even if someone could somehow block the water from shooting out of the ground, eventually the power of the underground water will cause another explosion. It’s just a matter of time. This is also true of the girl who tries to fix her boyfriend. He may change some of his behavior, but that doesn’t mean he’s truly changed. His bad behavior will happen again just like Old Faithful. He needs to change on his own without someone else trying to fix him. (Keep in mind it could be the girl with the problem and her guy is trying to fix her.)
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i agree. my ex-boyfriend was a jerk. and everyone told me that, i just didnt want to listen. i couldn’t fix him or the way he acted he has to do that himself. he did things that hurt me and he say mistake but i never believed him. because i knew it wasnt true. :/ you cant change them they have to change them themselves.
i totally think that you cannot fix anyone but yourself. You have to just let that person be yourself and if that person does not consider what you are saying or if they don’t love you enough to change,then you should think about being in your relationship.
Girls today are becoming more and more prone to drug problems and alcoholism. Guys that are interested in these girls do need to avoid them if they have no interest in doing the same things. I realized this personally when I was 16 and had a relationship with a girl who smoked pot, because I thought I could get her to quit and liked her otherwise. I was always fighting her about it and she kept trying to get me to try it myself. I always resisted, but the relationship never was right because that was a constant fight.
when someone has a drug or alcohol problem and you don’t want the same one, just avoid the relationship. There are no numbers to it. there is no spokesperson on tv talking about it with crazy numbers or whatever. It’s just how it is. They are gonna try to push it on you actively or passively, and you can’t change them by dating them.
