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Am I good dating material?
Most of us would agree that thinking of others first is the right decision compared to putting ourselves first. This may be true when we’re talking about manners: like holding the door for someone, letting someone go in front of us when we’re in line, paying for someone else’s dinner, or offering to help our parents with chores. But with relationships, we must love ourselves first before we can love others. No, I’m not saying to think of yourself as more important, but what I am saying is that if you want a healthy relationship with anyone you must be able to care for yourself before you care for someone else. Let me give you an example. Every time I fly somewhere I freak out. I start sweating and when the plane shakes I grab the arm rests. But even before the plane takes off I’m still pretty nervous. It doesn’t really help me when the flight attendant is speaking because all they do is list everything we can use on the plane in case it crashes. But one thing I always remember the flight attendant say about the oxygen mask is, “Please put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you assist others.” At first, it’s easy to think that you would want to help someone in your family or someone you really care about. But if we really thought about the reason we put the mask on ourselves first we would understand why we must love ourselves before we love others. Our relationships will fail if we do not take care of ourselves. If we try to help others while ignoring our own problems our relationship will quickly die.
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Posted by: russell on 6/9 at 1:53pm 0 Comments
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