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When it’s over
There is a right and a wrong way to end a relationship. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying that it is ever easy. Sometimes people can be good people, but just not good for each other. When a relationship becomes a chore or a burden then it is time to let go. Sometimes people just grow apart and they realize they are headed on different paths and are better off as friends than in a relationship. I have been dumped on Myspace before and trust me that is an example of what not to do and how to end a relationship on bad terms. If you feel like it’s not working out, the best thing to do is be honest with yourself and be honest with the person you are dating. You are young and still finding out a lot about yourself. Treating people the way you want to be treated is the best way to go. You never know when you might cross paths with someone in the future so the best thing to do is to not burn bridges. There will be times when you want to break-up with someone and they do not want to break up. In cases like this you need to talk to that person to communicate your point of view and then listen to their point of view as well. You may have to agree to disagree about why it is ending, but at least each person will leave with a clear understanding of how the other person felt at the conclusion of the relationship. Ending a relationship is not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but knowing this is half the battle. The other half of the battle is talking to your friends and family about your many emotions and moving on. You have your whole life ahead of you. It may be over with that guy or girl but it is just the beginning of another chapter in your life.
Topic: Dating
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 6/9 at 1:00pm 0 Comments
Who is Paying?
I remember it like it was yesterday, I was 18 years old and I had been having a crush on this guy since I was like 15 and he asked me if I was hungry. Excited that he was paying me any attention I said, “yes” and he said ‘Well, me and some of my family are headed to eat. You are welcome to come if you would like.’ We get to the restaurant. I see him give the lady the money and proceed in so I start to walk behind him. The lady stops me and says that he only paid for himself. I am puzzled and not wanting to be further embarrassed I pay for my food and walk to the table. At this point I can’t really enjoy my food anymore cause I want to ask him why he did not pay for my food, but not in front of everyone. We get back to his car and I finally get up the nerve to ask him about it and he says. “Oh I did not know you took it that way.” I say, “Well, you asked me to come.” He laughs and says, ‘I asked if you were hungry and that me and my family were headed to eat that I could join them.’ I sat in silence for a while and really thought about what he said. Good thing I had some money because I would have been totally embarrassed.
The one thing that I should never have done was assume that he was going to pay for my meal. Since I was not 100% sure, I should have asked him before saying I wanted to go and not understanding what the arrangement was. It was not like he was asking me out on a date or anything. I was young and had a lot of misconceptions about who is supposed to pay and when.
I think that whoever asks the person out on the date should at least be prepared to pay. Depending on the situation the guy will most likely take the bill, but young ladies it never hurts to offer to pay. Ask questions and be clear before leaving for the date if he is paying. This clears up any confusion. No one likes to feel like they have to do anything. It should be because they want to and both people want to enjoy the others’ company. When setting up a date, both teens need to have money. This is a safety precaution for emergencies and maybe if the guy pays for dinner the girl can pay for the movies. There is nothing wrong with switching it up a bit. There is nothing wrong with talking about who is going to pay and sharing the responsibility.
Topic: Dating
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 6/9 at 12:35pm 1 Comments
