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Is Kissing That Serious?
When should you consider kissing someone when dating? The answer depends on what kind of kissing we’re talking about. If this is the peck on the cheek variety, it is not something to worry about. However, if we are talking about a French kiss (which is what most folks are doing), then I believe there needs to be some major components in the relationship established beforehand. First, you need to know one another and I don’t simply mean just know names. By knowing I mean that you hang out long enough to know the true person. That leads to the next component which is trust. You should feel safe enough with the other person that you have confidence that they will not physically or emotionally harm you. This develops a relationship in which you can rely on one another to keep each other’s best interests in mind. This is the type of relationship you can commit to, the last component that should be in place. You should be exclusively for one another in the relationship.
You may say, “Jason, you are being too serious. It’s just a little kissing.” I understand that kissing is something that is common in relationships, and that kissing doesn’t have to lead to other things physically, but it typically does lead to other things. Any love scene in a movie begins with a kiss for a reason. A kiss is like a switch for sexual desire. It turns it on. Your body tends to react quickly to the kissing and without strong willpower, it is ready for more. Can you trust this person to be looking out for you?
Am I being too serious about all this? Let me know what you think
Posted by: JasonH on 10/1 at 9:59am 6 Comments
Dating Violence Is About Power and Control
According to the statistics, one out of three teens will experience dating violence. Dating violence is when a person experiences physical, emotional or sexual abuse at the hands of his or her significant other. Dating violence is NOT a way to express love. It is ONLY to gain power and control over the person who seems too weak and needy to leave. A person who may be a victim of dating violence may have low self-esteem or thinks that the physical abuse is normal.
If you experience any type of violence, GET OUT of that relationship as soon as possible. You need to seek the help of family, friends, a teacher, or an adult you can trust. You do not deserve to be beaten, hurt, or treated that way. If you have experienced dating violence, it can be emotionally draining as well. Take some time to work on yourself before you enter into another relationship. The last thing you want to do is change the actors, but the play stays the same. Love yourself more than you love the one you are with. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Signs of an abusive relationship
Signs of a healthy relationship
Posted by: Anovia on 9/21 at 5:11am 0 Comments
Who pays for the date?
Traditionally, the guy is the one who pays for the date because he is the one expected to do the asking. However, I have talked with plenty of ladies who have gone out with a guy to dinner and he is not prepared to pay. It is an awkward situation that none of us would like to be in. There are also plenty of guys who are asked out by the lady and he expects them each to pay for their own while she expects him to pay. Yet again an awkward situation since she did the asking. So what should we do about this paying issue???
My rule of thumb is to go ahead and prepare to pay for both, whether you are the guy or the lady. Then if he turns out to be cheap and not want to pay for you (or possibly himself) you will be covered and at least dodge a bad situation becoming worse. A second date most likely will not be in order. Many ladies I have spoken with prefer to pay their own way on the first couple of dates to avoid a compromising situation. While a lady never owes anything to a guy just because he spent money on her, it dissuades a guy from trying to take advantage of her.
If you don’t like my idea, then the best thing is to bite the bullet and discuss who will pay before you go out. It does not mean either of you are cheap and if you think they will decide not to go out if you ask about who will pay, they are not worth your time. It is about good communication. What do you think?
Posted by: JasonH on 9/11 at 3:40pm 2 Comments
True Love Is Not Violent
Dating violence is a topic that many teens do not like to talk about mainly because most teens think it will never happen to them. Dating violence is not something that just happens, it is a process that builds up to actual violence. There are always signs or what I like to call red flags to pay attention to. If the person that you are dating has anger issues and lashes out at you verbally, that may be a warning that it could possibly turn into physical harm. Violence, verbal, emotional or sexual, in a relationship is NEVER acceptable. Do not let another person put their hands on you or emotionally attack you. If they can do it once they will try to do it again. Violence is never the answer to any type of problem or issue that may be present in a relationship. Never feel that you have to deal with someone mistreating you. Love is not violent if it is true and genuine. If you are being abused in your relationship tell a parent or adult. Get help immediately before it is to late. Check out loveisrespect.org
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 9/1 at 8:53pm 0 Comments
How do you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to dress?
You can tell a lot about a person by how the dress and how they carry themselves when you first meet them. Clothes are apart of how a person is perceived from another person. If you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to dress a certain way they I suggest dating a person that already has that since of style instead of trying to change someone and make they wear what you think they should. I have learned that teens and people in general use clothing as a way to express themselves and that is great. Let’s just say for example you meet someone at the gym or right after they get done playing a sport and you have no idea how they dress when they are not on the field or playing that sport. The best thing for you to do is find out more about that person in conversation and what they like to do other than playing sports. This will give you a chance to get an idea of how they dress. At the end of the day you can not change people you can only change yourself. Nine times out of ten in you meet a person wearing a certain style or type of outfit that is how they will dress most of the time. People do change up their style but style is a personal choice. So my suggestion is to date someone that already wearing the style or trend that you like so that style of dress is not an issue in your relationship.
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 9/1 at 3:56pm 2 Comments
He’s Just Not That Into You
Have you ever waited for a guy to call only to find out that he’s never going to call? Have you ever really liked a guy only to find out that he just wants to be your “friend”. I am sure we have all been there and it is safe to say that we have had those friends or even our moms to tell us a story. What story you are asking? The story of the friend that did not get a phone call from a guy for however many days, lets say a week and finally he called. They hit it off great and now they are the best couple in the world and all the other girls wish they had a guy as great as he is.
Well, my friends that is the exception, not the rule. The exception is something that happens maybe once in a lifetime or every blue moon, like the guy calling and asking you out after a week has passed . The rule is the odds of him calling back after a week are not that great.
As young ladies we always try to sugarcoat the truth for ourselves and for our friends. We say things like, “girl, he’s missing out” and “girl, he was not that cute anyway.” When the truth is, he’s just not that into you and your friend did not want to hurt your feelings by saying it. Most teens want to believe that every guy that they like is going to like them back. For the most part, women in general think like this. We as women are so easy going and giving of our hearts to guys that we ignore the big red flags. If he does not call like he said he would that is a red flag! If when he finally answered the phone after you have called him many times and he’s acting extra busy and can’t talk, that is a red flag! We have to do better and not get so wrapped up and emotionally entangled with a guy. We decide to let our feelings be hurt or not. It is up to us to accept the truth for what it is. Maybe he is not interested and that is fine because that makes room for the great guy that will really like you for who you are.
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 8/3 at 9:53am 0 Comments
How do you let someone know that you are interested?
If you like someone and are interested in pursuing the relationship to see whether or not that person is compatible to date, your actions should be well thought out. Why? Let’s face it, how many of you have ever been approached by someone you knew was not the one because that person shot you some random line like, “Baby, do your legs hurt? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” The problem with this is that people who use these lines typically have no substance.
Here are a few tips on getting a person’s attention: 1) Be mature, 2) Be open, 3) Be yourself, 4) Be honest, 5) Be goal-oriented, 6) Be selfless or thoughtful, 7) Be intelligent, 8) Be responsible, 9) Be fun, and 10) Be drama free. If you know you have some things to work on, don’t pretend or try to be something you are not. We all have things we can work on and being who we truly are makes it easier on ourselves and the people we want to get to know. Have you ever been approached in a way that left you telling your friends that it was “dead wrong”? Have you ever been approached in the right way? If so, will you share a brief story?
Posted by: Anovia on 7/24 at 3:02pm 0 Comments
Do you think sexting is a big deal? Why?
Sexting is passing naked pictures or videos of yourself or someone else via text message. Sexting “is” a big deal because it is illegal to send naked pictures or videos of underage people via internet or phone text and it can haunt you for the rest of your life. If someone sends you a naked picture or videos with naked people in them, do the mature thing and delete it immediately. If you are thinking about sending naked pictures or videos of yourself via the internet or phone, consider the major consequences: embarrassment, humiliation, possible arrest and jail time, and having to answer questions about why you are on the sex offender registry, and so much more. Do yourself a favor and stay away from sexting.
Posted by: Anovia on 7/24 at 3:00pm 3 Comments
Who has the best advice about dating, your parents or your friends?
Parents give the best advice because they have been where teens are today. Let’s face it, parents were not always parents. They have life experience. They want to guide their teen on a path that will prevent challenges. Friends may or may not have experiences that are applicable to you. Honestly, how much more information do you think they have that you don’t have? Most of them have lived the same amount of time as you. Remember, your friends can be sincere BUT be sincerely wrong admit, some parents are not as forthcoming as they should be but, instead of turning to another teen, go to an adult you can trust to be open and honest about what you are curious about? This will help you prevent making some poor choices.
Posted by: Anovia on 7/19 at 9:31am 2 Comments
Dating Courtesies
Should we expect dating courtesies today? Is chivalry dead?
For those who don’t know what I mean, I am talking about opening the doors, pulling out seats, running errands, etc. Have we become so devoid of morality or principles that we disregard things that should be important to us in dating? Is it every person for themselves or do dating courtesies still exist?
A friend was talking with me the other day and told me about what happened on a recent date. Apparently, she had been talking with a guy over a period of time and they decided to meet at a restaurant for dinner. When the date was over the guy got upset with her because she didn’t walk him to his vehicle.
This incident should have given my friend insight on what to expect if she had chosen to date him, right? I could not believe what I was hearing. Was he serious? More and more men and women have never been taught why dating courtesies are so important. In some ways I think the roles have flipped. I know that the societal norm is to do what is accepted at the time, but let’s face it people, as far as I am concerned, things like calling when you say you are going to call, coming to the door to pick me up for a date, opening the car door for me, and walking me to my car after a date will never go out of style.
Posted by: Anovia on 7/9 at 2:09pm 1 Comments
