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Dating Violence Is About Power and Control
According to the statistics, one out of three teens will experience dating violence. Dating violence is when a person experiences physical, emotional or sexual abuse at the hands of his or her significant other. Dating violence is NOT a way to express love. It is ONLY to gain power and control over the person who seems too weak and needy to leave. A person who may be a victim of dating violence may have low self-esteem or thinks that the physical abuse is normal.
If you experience any type of violence, GET OUT of that relationship as soon as possible. You need to seek the help of family, friends, a teacher, or an adult you can trust. You do not deserve to be beaten, hurt, or treated that way. If you have experienced dating violence, it can be emotionally draining as well. Take some time to work on yourself before you enter into another relationship. The last thing you want to do is change the actors, but the play stays the same. Love yourself more than you love the one you are with. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Signs of an abusive relationship
Signs of a healthy relationship
Posted by: Anovia on 9/21 at 6:11am 0 Comments
Who pays for the date?
Traditionally, the guy is the one who pays for the date because he is the one expected to do the asking. However, I have talked with plenty of ladies who have gone out with a guy to dinner and he is not prepared to pay. It is an awkward situation that none of us would like to be in. There are also plenty of guys who are asked out by the lady and he expects them each to pay for their own while she expects him to pay. Yet again an awkward situation since she did the asking. So what should we do about this paying issue???
My rule of thumb is to go ahead and prepare to pay for both, whether you are the guy or the lady. Then if he turns out to be cheap and not want to pay for you (or possibly himself) you will be covered and at least dodge a bad situation becoming worse. A second date most likely will not be in order. Many ladies I have spoken with prefer to pay their own way on the first couple of dates to avoid a compromising situation. While a lady never owes anything to a guy just because he spent money on her, it dissuades a guy from trying to take advantage of her.
If you don’t like my idea, then the best thing is to bite the bullet and discuss who will pay before you go out. It does not mean either of you are cheap and if you think they will decide not to go out if you ask about who will pay, they are not worth your time. It is about good communication. What do you think?
Posted by: JasonH on 9/11 at 4:40pm 2 Comments
True Love Is Not Violent
Dating violence is a topic that many teens do not like to talk about mainly because most teens think it will never happen to them. Dating violence is not something that just happens, it is a process that builds up to actual violence. There are always signs or what I like to call red flags to pay attention to. If the person that you are dating has anger issues and lashes out at you verbally, that may be a warning that it could possibly turn into physical harm. Violence, verbal, emotional or sexual, in a relationship is NEVER acceptable. Do not let another person put their hands on you or emotionally attack you. If they can do it once they will try to do it again. Violence is never the answer to any type of problem or issue that may be present in a relationship. Never feel that you have to deal with someone mistreating you. Love is not violent if it is true and genuine. If you are being abused in your relationship tell a parent or adult. Get help immediately before it is to late. Check out loveisrespect.org
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 9/1 at 9:53pm 0 Comments
How do you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to dress?
You can tell a lot about a person by how the dress and how they carry themselves when you first meet them. Clothes are apart of how a person is perceived from another person. If you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to dress a certain way they I suggest dating a person that already has that since of style instead of trying to change someone and make they wear what you think they should. I have learned that teens and people in general use clothing as a way to express themselves and that is great. Let’s just say for example you meet someone at the gym or right after they get done playing a sport and you have no idea how they dress when they are not on the field or playing that sport. The best thing for you to do is find out more about that person in conversation and what they like to do other than playing sports. This will give you a chance to get an idea of how they dress. At the end of the day you can not change people you can only change yourself. Nine times out of ten in you meet a person wearing a certain style or type of outfit that is how they will dress most of the time. People do change up their style but style is a personal choice. So my suggestion is to date someone that already wearing the style or trend that you like so that style of dress is not an issue in your relationship.
Posted by: Its Nori Nori on 9/1 at 4:56pm 2 Comments
