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"We Fight All the Time" |
Thursday, July 22, 2010 I have been thinking about my boyfriend and I having a baby…but here lately we have been arguing so bad…I don’t ever want to lose him..we both love each other very much and have talked about a baby before…but right now we are questioning our relationship..I’m so confused….I don’t want to lose him…if we fix our problems would it be a good idea to have a baby if we are financially able…please help…. People who love each other very much don’t argue all the time. This should be a red flag to you. Why are you trying so hard to make this relationship work? A baby certainly will not help a relationship that is in trouble. Babies create tremendous stress on a relationship. We would encourage you to step back and examine this relationship. When you love someone, yes there will be disagreements, but not all the time. It is easy to be around that person. You can trust and depend on them to do the right thing. People are respectful and honoring of each other. Have you thought about attending a relationship skills class to see if you can improve your relationship? http://talktofriends.org/classes/ Think about the environment you would be bringing a baby into. Even if things get better for a short period of time how do you know they will stay that way. Babies are a great gift in a committed, married relationship where two people understand it isn’t all about them. |
