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"Should it Really Be this Difficult?"

Saturday, March 13, 2010

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. Since it’s so close to our graduation, we feel as if our relationship will go a long way. I mean, I can tell that we’re more committed to each other than the average teenager is during high school. But I still have doubts of our future together, especially now more than ever. We’re fighting a lot more, but I thought it was just the time in our relationship where it’s really testing us if we can stay together. But should it really be this hard to tell if we are meant to be? I’m tired of fighting with him, even if it’s over the little things, but I feel like if we can’t fix the problem over small stuff, then how are we going to solve bigger ones in the future? We both plan on going to college and doing something with our lives. I’m determined on my career choice but if he doesn’t agree with it, I shouldn’t have to change, should I?


Dating relationships are interesting because no two people are exactly alike so there will always be things you disagree about. However, fighting all the time isn’t a sign of a great relationship. The good news is you are not married to this person, you are dating, him so don’t feel like it would be horrible thing to move on.  It is VERY rare for someone to marry a high school sweetheart. The whole point of dating is to experience different personalities so you can learn what you like and what you don’t like.  A healthy relationship can have challenging moments and disagreements, but overall the relationship is fun, respectful and honoring…. not a drag.

As far as changing your career choice – why would someone who truly loves and cares about you ask you to change your career choice? 

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