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"Should I Worry About What Other People Think?" |
Saturday, March 13, 2010 I’ve been through a lot lately. I was dating a guy,that my parents didn’t like, behind their back. We snuck around for awhile and then we got caught by my parents. They were VERY mad and my dad even told me I could never talk to him again. He was my first love and I thought I would never get over him. A couple months went by and I was kind of talking to other guys, but nothing felt the same, I was so upset and hurt about what happened and just couldn’t forget about him. I talked to my dad one night about what had happened so long ago and he told me that if things would be different we could try it again. I was so excited, but whenever I would bring it or him up my dad would just blow it off. I’ve also talked to the guy that I went through so much trouble with and he said he still loved me and did want to get back together again. But here’s the problem, I know I love him and want to get back together with him but I keep thinking in my head what OTHER people are going to think about me or us. What do I do? I know I should probably talk to my dad again about all this, right? But what am I suppose to do about what other people think? For the most part we think you really answered the question for yourself. It sounds like another conversation with your dad would be a good thing to help you sort out this situation. As far as what other people will think, there are a few things we think you need to consider. First, what you do during your teen years will impact you later in life. Your reputation matters now and for the rest of your life. While you can’t always be worried about what everybody will think you need to be smart about who you hang out with and who you date. Second, is this guy good date material? Slow down and ask some questions like: Will he be respectful of you and your future? Why was your dad upset about you dating him in the first place? And, what do you think others will think if you date him and why? Talking with your dad and answering these questions should help you decide what your next step should be. |
