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"Should I Break Up with Her?"

Thursday, July 22, 2010

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now. This is by far the longest relationship I’ve experienced, but there is a problem. Home from college, we are semi-long distance. I’m busy with online summer classes along with work and trying to reconnect with friends that I left behind or went to other schools. On the other hand, she isn’t working or doing classes. The problem is that I don’t have the time to talk to her as she thinks I should be doing and it’s causing quite a bit of strife between us. There is another problem that I haven’t told her. Recently, I’ve been feeling that I really don’t want to talk to her anymore. There is nothing more to talk about, I feel. Every conversation we have starts with “How was your day?” and essentially moves on to an argument over my “lack of communication.” I’ve sought the advice of friends who say that a relationship cannot work with constant arguments as well as lack of communication (even more so if one party
  no longer WANTS to communicate). I just don’t want to end it then regret it when we get back to school. Advice?


Sounds like you have already moved on, which is okay!  You just need to tell her.  What you are saying is legit.  The whole concept of dating is that you aren’t stuck in a relationship that isn’t working.  Dating should be fun and enjoyable and you are clearly not having fun any more…..and neither is she.  Also, there is nothing wrong with taking a break in a relationship.  You might find that you really like her OR you might discover she is not the one for you.

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