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"More than a friend" |
Thursday, May 27, 2010 I have this friend, and he’s not just a friend he is my BEST FRIEND. But I secretly like him a lot! So one day I sent him a text…(now I was just testing his reaction I would wanna do this in person) And I said, “Will you go out with me?” his response was, “Ummmm (my name), as much as it pains me to say this, no. It’s just because I don’t like relationships and I don’t wanna be tied down right now. I’m so sorry.” I then told him my cousin was over and she wrote that. Then everything was back to normal. The fact is, I’m not a troubled teen with drug problems or has sex or thinks that she’ll find her first love in high school. I’m not any of those things. I just have one Q and maybe a few after that. But I wanna know, how long should I wait to ask him again? Or should I again? And how should I ask him? -Sincerely,Confused (please answer ASAP, I would be okay with carrying this conversation on further if that’s okay, sometimes with me, my questions can’t be answered i n one setting.) I guess we are wondering why you would ask him again. Having a best friend like him is pretty rare. Even the way he answered you was respectful and honest. It sounds like he is a really good guy. If you push this because you like him as more than a friend, you risk losing a best friend because the relationship will probably get weird. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Most healthy relationships begin with a solid friendship. Instead of trying to move from a friendship to something more, have you thought about just continuing to be great friends and seeing where it goes over time? |
