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"More than a friend" |
Thursday, May 27, 2010 I have this friend, and he’s not just a friend he is my BEST FRIEND. But I secretly like him a lot! So one day I sent him a text…(now I was just testing his reaction I would wanna do this in person) And I said, “Will you go out with me?” his response was, “Ummmm (my name), as much as it pains me to say this, no. It’s just because I don’t like relationships and I don’t wanna be tied down right now. I’m so sorry.” I then told him my cousin was over and she wrote that. Then everything was back to normal. The fact is, I’m not a troubled teen with drug problems or has sex or thinks that she’ll find her first love in high school. I’m not any of those things. I just have one Q and maybe a few after that. But I wanna know, how long should I wait to ask him again? Or should I again? And how should I ask him? -Sincerely,Confused (please answer ASAP, I would be okay with carrying this conversation on further if that’s okay, sometimes with me, my questions can’t be answered i n one setting.) I guess we are wondering why you would ask him again. Having a best friend like him is pretty rare. Even the way he answered you was respectful and honest. It sounds like he is a really good guy. If you push this because you like him as more than a friend, you risk losing a best friend because the relationship will probably get weird. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Most healthy relationships begin with a solid friendship. Instead of trying to move from a friendship to something more, have you thought about just continuing to be great friends and seeing where it goes over time? |
"What if he leaves?" |
Wednesday, May 19, 2010 My relationship with my boyfriend has been kind of crazy, We are always on and then off again, We are expecting twin boys in July and I’m not sure if we break up again if he will be there for them, and that kind of scares me, I don’t know what I should do, At this point I’m so scared of him leaving, I won’t have anyone there for me once he walks out, Because no one wants to be with a teenage mother, What do I do? Should I go ahead and call it off or just wait it out? Expecting a child is a big deal, expecting twins is an even BIGGER DEAL. If he’s not willing to sit down and talk, get both your parents involved. Supporting and taking care of twins is a lot of responsibility and he needs to bear his part of the load. As their father, he is just as responsible for taking care of your babies and preparing for their future as you are. He needs to be present and active in every part of their lives. Your children deserve that. You’ve stepped out of the teenage role into parenthood. You both are going to have to step up to the plate and prepare for the future of your children. Being a parent is stressful and complicated. Being a teen parent is even more so. One decision that you must make is not to be in an unhealthy relationship. If you are always worrying that he is going to walk out of your relationship that is not healthy. Another important decision that the two of you must make is how you will care for your children. . If you are in the Chattanooga area we have a class called Love’s Cradle for non-married expectant parents that you might find helpful. You can take it as a couple or individually. It is free. For more information, click here. You guys need to have a serious sit down SOON!
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"What's up with that?" |
Why does my boyfriend throw up every time i kiss him? i have brushed my teeth before hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe he just doesn’t like kissing. Not everybody does.
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"Any tips for helping me snag a boyfriend?" |
Why is it that it seems that every time I find a guy that likes me for who I am something happens and he is scared off? I’m really starting to think that I just have bad luck. Do you have any tips to help me snag a boyfriend? “Snag a boyfriend”! Why don’t you change that to “find a friend who is male”? Relationships are best when they start off slow and as friendships. The more you get to know about him like: what he likes to do, what he doesn’t like, his goals, what you two have in common, and if he is respectful, and trustworthy, the more you will know whether or not he is boyfriend material.
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"Is a long distance relationship a good thing?" |
Wednesday, April 14, 2010 Is a long distance relationship a bad thing? Here’s the deal with long distance relationships. You want to proceed with caution. Most of the time in long distance relationships you are on your best behavior when you see each other and the visits are usually for a short period of time. It is very hard to get to know a person without seeing them in a variety of situations over an extended period of time. Even if you date them for a long time, it isn’t hard to put up a front for 24 hours compared to seeing someone day in and day out having to handle the everyday issues that life dishes out. You want to be able to know their friends, how they treat their friends, what they are like around their family. How they handle stress and anger. These are all things you can’t see through the phone or internet. |
"I need to break up with him" |
Tuesday, April 13, 2010 I need to break up with my boyfriend. He’s made me cry and mad so many times. I’ve given him chances to change but he never pulled through for me. I tried doing it today but I can’t help but feel like I still want to go out with him, even after everything he’s put me through. He told me he’ll change, quit some things, and fix the problems. But I already feel like I’ve given more than enough chances and I don’t want to risk getting hurt. Should I give him another chance? From reading your question it sounds like you know what you need to do. You have given him opportunities to change before and he hasn’t. What makes you think this time will be different? You can have feelings for someone and realize that they aren’t good date material. Go with your gut. Why would you want to continue to go out with someone who continues to make you cry and mad? |
