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"Help! My Best Friend is dating my Ex" |
Thursday, October 8, 2009 My best friend started dating my ex boy friend and she knows I’m still in love with him!! And it really hurts me when I look at either of them!! And the bad part is she told me she didn’t like him like that and she knows I’m upset about and she doesn’t care then my ex also told me he still liked me and then he starts going out with my best friend and he doesn’t care I’m upset!!!! PLEASE HELP ME First off, we wonder if your best friend is really your friend. A “best” friend wouldn’t do what your friend has done. Second, how long did you date this guy because to know you are really in love with someone takes a long time. Dating and being in love are two very different things. The fact that your “best friend” and your Ex don’t care that you are upset says a lot. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated like this? Consider looking for some real friends. |
"Should I date my best friend's EX" |
Friday, September 25, 2009 My best friend has been dating this really hot guy. I thought he liked me, but I didn’t care. A week later I found out that he broke up with her to go out with me. He told her he used her to hang out with me. The next day he comes up and asks me out. I don’t know what to say? Help!?!?
Well, the first thing that came to our minds was “USER” “He used her to hang out with me.” What kind of a person does that? If he would do that to her it is pretty likely he will do that to you. It sounds like this guy is out for himself and doesn’t care who he hurts in the process. He may look hot on the outside, but on the inside, not so much. Is he really worth sacrificing the relationship you have with your best friend? We think you deserve better.
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"Can you build a relationship when you are 13 hours apart?" |
Wednesday, September 23, 2009 We’ve been together for 5 months now and I just moved. How am I able to trust him when I’m 13 hours away? We’re wondering if trust is really the issue. If you could trust him before, why wouldn’t you trust him now? We think the bigger question is, “How do you continue to build a real relationship when you are 13 hours apart?” Part of building strong, healthy relationships is spending time with the person – not on the internet or texting, but actually in person. This will clearly be very difficult for you guys to do. |
"Can a long distance relationship work?" |
Ok so I fell in love with my best friend but he didn’t figure it out until after I moved. So then we tried a long distance relationship which didn’t work out cause he ended up cheating on me with my best friend! So of course I broke up with him but he says he is sorry, but I don’t know if i should trust him again. Do you think I should get back with him? Or should I just stop talking to him?
Long distance relationships can be really challenging. You say he is your “best friend”. It seems like it would make sense to continue your friendship with him, but not pursue a dating relationship. Why would you stop talking to him? It is hard to build trust with someone you are never around. He may be trustworthy, but because you aren’t around him you will probably always wonder what he is doing. |
"Should I tell the truth?" |
There is this guy. I really, really like him. I connected with him through Facebook, through one of my friends. He and I got to be friends. And then he started me on an application called “Honesty Box”. “Honesty Box” is an application where you can ask questions, and people will anonymously answer them. His question was, “Would you go out with me, and why?” I, of course, not thinking, typed in, “Yes”. Then, he responded, and I told him, (anonymously), that I thought that he lived in my neighborhood. That, I’ll admit, was a mistake. I mean, here he is, with someone he doesn’t know, telling him that they know where he lives??? I would freak, too. Anyway, he asked who I was, and I haven’t responded. Last year, he had a “clingy” girlfriend that, when he broke up with her, attacked him. His family had to change their phone number, e-mail addresses, etc. I don’t want him to find out that I am the one telling him that I know where he lives, but also, if he does find out, I don’t want him disgusted with me, and therefore hate me. I know I made a mistake, and I am really worried about him freaking out and reporting me. What should I do? How can I tell him that it’s ME he’s talking to? The best relationships, whether friendships or dating, are built on honesty and trust. Tell him the truth. Most people appreciate honesty.
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"Should I trust my gut?" |
Monday, September 14, 2009 I’m having to do homebound schooling because I’m sick and can’t go back to school till I have surgery, my boyfriend is in school. We’ve been dating on and off for the last 3 years, and we’ve been back together for 2 months. He hangs out with all kinds of girls and they even go to his house to “see his sister”. I was looking on one of his ex’s myspace pages and it said she was laying down IN HIS BED!! And when she goes over there, she always takes his phone from him, and if she don’t he’s “too tired” to text. He and his sister swears that there’s nothing going on between him & his ex but something in my gut tells me otherwise what should I do??? Listen to your gut! |
