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"Bragging Rights???" |
Friday, January 29, 2010 I have these friends who have this non stop habit of bragging.One friend brags about how smart she is and all the good grades she gets and another brags about how so many guys like her.and another friends brags about how much money she has. I never brag.I cannot stand it. It bothers me because whenever I talk to them it seems that that’s all they wanna talk about and I have no interest in hearing about all that stuff again and again. So I wondering if it’s a good idea to talk to them about it or if it will bring up a whole bunch of unneeded drama. Should I tell them how I feel? Sometimes people don’t realize that they are braggers. There are those who want attention and think that bragging is the way to get it and there are others who feel very insecure and bragging is one way they feel like they can be bigger than they feel like they are deep down inside. If your goal is to get them to stop bragging, it seems like you have a couple of options. You could tell them how you feel when they brag about themselves or every time they start to brag about something try to change the subject of conversation. If you tell them how you feel, you should be prepared for potential fallout. You might want to ask yourself if this is important enough to have to deal with the drama that could follow? In the event that they are not aware of how much they are bragging, trying to change the subject could send a message and help them think about other things. Bottomline - If the bragging doesn’t stop you might want to look elsewhere for friends like yourself who are confident, secure and their main topic of conversation is not themselves.
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"Should I be Mad at Her?" |
Thursday, January 21, 2010 I told my friend E who I liked. She told me she would try to get him to ask me to homecoming but he never did. At the dance, he walked around all alone and I tried to talk to him but it didn’t work. When the DJ told us it was the last song, I tried to find him just to see who he was dancing with. Then I heard E’s voice call him, “T, dance with me!” I turned around and he had his hands on her waist and she was starring right at me. I almost cried right there. By definition, a friend is trustworthy and loyal. Clearly E was not either of those towards you. Lesson learned….hopefully. What will you accomplish by being mad at her or at yourself? Don’t waste your time. Remember how it felt to be dissed so you don’t turn around and do the exact same thing to someone else and move on. |
"What if I don't have sex with him?" |
I have been dating this guy for almost four months now, I will be 17 next month. I love him, and he loves me, we have known each other for about 6 months. Neither of us are virgins, but we haven’t been together yet. He told me that he is ready when I am, but there is no pressure on me, I can come when I am ready. Well lately I have been thinking about it, weighing in the pros and cons of our relationship, and how adding sex will affect it. I feel like I am ready but I do not want to make a mistake. It’s not a matter of wanting to please him, more like wanting to show him how much I love him and how much I want to be with him. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m ready to go to that next step with him, but I don’t want to mess things up between us. What would be a wise decision? It sounds like you guys have a good thing going on. Why would you want to totally complicate it with sex????? If you don’t have sex with him will he still want to be with you? |
"Should I tell him I like him?" |
If I like a guy a lot I mean a lot how should I tell him… I mean he is a big football dude and he has lots of friend… so if I just walk up to him then I am going to make myself look really stupid so what should I do…
Dating relationships start out a lot better if you are friends first. Soooo, are you friends with any of his friends and is it possible to start hanging out with them? This would give you an opportunity to see how he acts around his friends. You may like what you see on the outside and how you THINK he is on the inside. Only time will tell if he is really good date material. We suggest you play it cool and don’t let on that you like him just yet.
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"Is it stupid for me to still be in love with someone who doesn’t even like me?" |
My boyfriend broke up with me by text message. We were together for 3 months, but I really loved him. His name is John and I met him at church waaay back in August. He said I was too “emo” and he wasn’t into that anymore. I feel really sad all the time and I don’t want to see him again, so I’m not going to that church anymore. My question is: is it stupid for me to still be in love with someone who doesn’t even like me? No, it’s not stupid to be in love with someone who doesn’t like you. You do have to be mature enough to know when to move on though. Can’t forget that the purpose of dating is to figure out what you like and don’t like when it comes to the opposite sex. Sometimes for lots of different reasons relationships just don’t work out. The reality is relationships are risky in that you may develop strong feelings for somebody and he doesn’t feel the same way about you. Wouldn’t you rather he tell you? We think it is poor judgment on his part to break up with you by way of texting. |
"Why does my mom act so crazy?" |
Saturday, January 9, 2010 My mama acts so crazy when it comes to me and boys. She gets so crazy by just seeing me talk to them. One day she saw me walking with a boy (friend) and when I got back home she went off on me because she thought we were having sex, with no questions asked. What is this really about? Why won’t she trust me to do right? Ask your Mom if you can sit down and talk with her for a moment. Tell her that you are concerned that she doesn’t trust you and that you want her to know that she can. Let her know that you are not having sex and you want her to be confident that you are going to do the right thing. If she has other concerns take the time to listen and share with her to put her at ease. Believe it or not, your mother was once a teenager. She’s very much aware of what teenagers do and are doing. In addition to that, teen pregnancy rates are off the charts. Your mother knows how difficult life can be for a teen mom and doesn’t want you to find yourself in that tough position. Sounds like your mother cares for you and wants what’s best for you. Let her know that you appreciate her concern for your safety and your future. Also, be careful that you are not doing anything or going places that make her feel that she can’t trust you. Your mother is full of wisdom and insight. So let her know that you want her to trust you and that you will come to her when you have problems, concerns or issues. She’ll appreciate that. |
