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"Does he love me" |
Friday, March 25, 2011 so me and this guy was together for a long time and then got broken up…we got back together in december and he got my virginity in january.he broke up with me 5 days after.i later found out that i was pregnant.i am now 7 and a half wks along.the day after he broke up with me he got back with his ex gf.hes still with her now but he claims that he wants to be there for the baby.this last wk he has started sayin that he still loves me and wants to be with me and the baby, but hes still dating the other girl.should i trust him enough to give him another chance or should i jus move on with my life? Move on! Actions speak louder than words. His actions reveal more about who he is than his words. Is this what you want for your life and the life of your child? If he really loved you he would not have done anything to put you in the position you are in now. Every decision you make from this point forward not only affects you, it affects your child. You might find this class very helpful. http://firstthings.org/page/classes/loves-cradle |
"Why doesn't she have time for me?" |
Thursday, October 28, 2010 So I’m dating this girl, and we have been together for about a month. I REALLY like her, and things are really perfect. BUT, she is really involved in a lot, and even though she only lives like two streets down not 2 minutes walking, we NEVER get to hang out… we have only been alone together on a date just twice in the past 6 weeks. I always offer to come see her but she gets home late and always has homework so she always tells me that i shouldn’t just because it doesn’t work out for her, even though i just want to stop by and say hi. just two minutes of her time… and its not a matter of “does she like me enough to want to hang out,” because we both really like when we do get to hang out. but its just really frustrating asking her to do something as simple as me stopping by to say hi for 5 minutes and continually being turned down. I don’t want to end the relationship, and i don’t plan to just for this, that would be ridiculous. but do you have any advice on h ow to prevent myself from being so let down? The girl you are dating clearly considers school and these other activities a priority. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. You have two choices – you can either change your expectations of the relationship or you can move on. Consider the fact that you can really like someone and realize that at this moment in time it just isn’t meant to be. |
"I'm a Virgin" |
Thursday, July 22, 2010 I’m a 17 yr old virgin (sp?) and usually when I tell guys that, they look at me different,.It’s kinda like they see money signs or something, and I don’t like that. Should I not tell them and just change the subject when they ask? If they really want to know the answer they’ll ask again, right? Stand your ground! Maybe you want to set the record straight before you go out with them like telling them if you are dating me to get sex forget it. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin. One out of 4 sexually active girls has a sexually transmitted disease - which means there’s a bunch of guys running around who are also infected. Congratulations! You don’t have to wonder if you are one of the four girls. We wonder if those guys who look at you different are interested in a real relationship or just sex…........ |
"What's up with that?" |
Wednesday, May 19, 2010 Why does my boyfriend throw up every time i kiss him? i have brushed my teeth before hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe he just doesn’t like kissing. Not everybody does.
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"Should it Really Be this Difficult?" |
Saturday, March 13, 2010 My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. Since it’s so close to our graduation, we feel as if our relationship will go a long way. I mean, I can tell that we’re more committed to each other than the average teenager is during high school. But I still have doubts of our future together, especially now more than ever. We’re fighting a lot more, but I thought it was just the time in our relationship where it’s really testing us if we can stay together. But should it really be this hard to tell if we are meant to be? I’m tired of fighting with him, even if it’s over the little things, but I feel like if we can’t fix the problem over small stuff, then how are we going to solve bigger ones in the future? We both plan on going to college and doing something with our lives. I’m determined on my career choice but if he doesn’t agree with it, I shouldn’t have to change, should I? Dating relationships are interesting because no two people are exactly alike so there will always be things you disagree about. However, fighting all the time isn’t a sign of a great relationship. The good news is you are not married to this person, you are dating, him so don’t feel like it would be horrible thing to move on. It is VERY rare for someone to marry a high school sweetheart. The whole point of dating is to experience different personalities so you can learn what you like and what you don’t like. A healthy relationship can have challenging moments and disagreements, but overall the relationship is fun, respectful and honoring…. not a drag. As far as changing your career choice – why would someone who truly loves and cares about you ask you to change your career choice?
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"Should I Worry About What Other People Think?" |
I’ve been through a lot lately. I was dating a guy,that my parents didn’t like, behind their back. We snuck around for awhile and then we got caught by my parents. They were VERY mad and my dad even told me I could never talk to him again. He was my first love and I thought I would never get over him. A couple months went by and I was kind of talking to other guys, but nothing felt the same, I was so upset and hurt about what happened and just couldn’t forget about him. I talked to my dad one night about what had happened so long ago and he told me that if things would be different we could try it again. I was so excited, but whenever I would bring it or him up my dad would just blow it off. I’ve also talked to the guy that I went through so much trouble with and he said he still loved me and did want to get back together again. But here’s the problem, I know I love him and want to get back together with him but I keep thinking in my head what OTHER people are going to think about me or us. What do I do? I know I should probably talk to my dad again about all this, right? But what am I suppose to do about what other people think? For the most part we think you really answered the question for yourself. It sounds like another conversation with your dad would be a good thing to help you sort out this situation. As far as what other people will think, there are a few things we think you need to consider. First, what you do during your teen years will impact you later in life. Your reputation matters now and for the rest of your life. While you can’t always be worried about what everybody will think you need to be smart about who you hang out with and who you date. Second, is this guy good date material? Slow down and ask some questions like: Will he be respectful of you and your future? Why was your dad upset about you dating him in the first place? And, what do you think others will think if you date him and why? Talking with your dad and answering these questions should help you decide what your next step should be. |
