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"Why are they making fun of me?" |
Tuesday, February 23, 2010 Ever since the 6th grade people have always labeled me as the “emo kid” I have no idea why!!!! All of the boys make fun of me and I do nothing to them. It makes me so mad I want to cry! I have never done anything to make them think I was “emo” so I don’t get it. What do I do? First of all, what they are doing is a form of bullying and that is not acceptable. Sometimes it’s a tough thing to do but, the best thing you can do is hold your head high and IGNORE them. You need to know that when people make fun of other people, it is a lot more about them and not the person/people they are making fun of. If it gets to the point where you feel like it is over the top, you need to talk with your parents or another trusted adult. Making fun of you is unacceptable. Talking with an adult who can help you put together a plan of action for dealing with them is a good idea. You are not helpless in this situation. |
"What if he says no?" |
I really like this guy and there’s the winter ball (god knows why they call it that) coming up in two weeks. It’s not like he doesn’t notice me he looks at me during class but I don’t know what that means. I want to go to the dance with him but what if he doesn’t ask me? How would I even approach him to ask him to the dance? What if he rejects me? Will it be extremely awkward now? It’s not unusual to feel a little awkward when you like someone and you’re not sure whether they feel the same way. Relationships are much better when you start off being friends. What if you approached him as you would a person that you just want to be friends with. Could you ask him to go to the dance just as friends? If he says no, let it go. If he says yes, enjoy the evening – relax and have fun. You have no idea what he will be like in a situation like that. Who knows, you may find out that he is cute, but has no personality OR you might find out he is a ton of fun.
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"Bragging Rights???" |
Friday, January 29, 2010 I have these friends who have this non stop habit of bragging.One friend brags about how smart she is and all the good grades she gets and another brags about how so many guys like her.and another friends brags about how much money she has. I never brag.I cannot stand it. It bothers me because whenever I talk to them it seems that that’s all they wanna talk about and I have no interest in hearing about all that stuff again and again. So I wondering if it’s a good idea to talk to them about it or if it will bring up a whole bunch of unneeded drama. Should I tell them how I feel? Sometimes people don’t realize that they are braggers. There are those who want attention and think that bragging is the way to get it and there are others who feel very insecure and bragging is one way they feel like they can be bigger than they feel like they are deep down inside. If your goal is to get them to stop bragging, it seems like you have a couple of options. You could tell them how you feel when they brag about themselves or every time they start to brag about something try to change the subject of conversation. If you tell them how you feel, you should be prepared for potential fallout. You might want to ask yourself if this is important enough to have to deal with the drama that could follow? In the event that they are not aware of how much they are bragging, trying to change the subject could send a message and help them think about other things. Bottomline - If the bragging doesn’t stop you might want to look elsewhere for friends like yourself who are confident, secure and their main topic of conversation is not themselves.
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"Should I be Mad at Her?" |
Thursday, January 21, 2010 I told my friend E who I liked. She told me she would try to get him to ask me to homecoming but he never did. At the dance, he walked around all alone and I tried to talk to him but it didn’t work. When the DJ told us it was the last song, I tried to find him just to see who he was dancing with. Then I heard E’s voice call him, “T, dance with me!” I turned around and he had his hands on her waist and she was starring right at me. I almost cried right there. By definition, a friend is trustworthy and loyal. Clearly E was not either of those towards you. Lesson learned….hopefully. What will you accomplish by being mad at her or at yourself? Don’t waste your time. Remember how it felt to be dissed so you don’t turn around and do the exact same thing to someone else and move on. |
"What if I don't have sex with him?" |
I have been dating this guy for almost four months now, I will be 17 next month. I love him, and he loves me, we have known each other for about 6 months. Neither of us are virgins, but we haven’t been together yet. He told me that he is ready when I am, but there is no pressure on me, I can come when I am ready. Well lately I have been thinking about it, weighing in the pros and cons of our relationship, and how adding sex will affect it. I feel like I am ready but I do not want to make a mistake. It’s not a matter of wanting to please him, more like wanting to show him how much I love him and how much I want to be with him. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m ready to go to that next step with him, but I don’t want to mess things up between us. What would be a wise decision? It sounds like you guys have a good thing going on. Why would you want to totally complicate it with sex????? If you don’t have sex with him will he still want to be with you? |
"Should I tell him I like him?" |
If I like a guy a lot I mean a lot how should I tell him… I mean he is a big football dude and he has lots of friend… so if I just walk up to him then I am going to make myself look really stupid so what should I do…
Dating relationships start out a lot better if you are friends first. Soooo, are you friends with any of his friends and is it possible to start hanging out with them? This would give you an opportunity to see how he acts around his friends. You may like what you see on the outside and how you THINK he is on the inside. Only time will tell if he is really good date material. We suggest you play it cool and don’t let on that you like him just yet.
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